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Online dating – what to do when you are not interested

Online dating allows many members to view your profile and show an interest in you. However, the attraction may not always be mutual and you will need to find kind ways of letting the other person know you are not interested. It is important to know how to do this in a considerate way. How it is done will depend on how long you have known the person, and at what level.

If someone emails you and you are not interested, one option is simply to not respond. If there have been a few messages going back-and-forth, the best thing might be to send a friendly email, saying you do not believe that you are suited to each other, and giving them your best wishes.

If after the first date the other person is interested, but you feel that you are not suited, it would be prudent to send a message kindly stating what you are feeling.

After a few dates, the appropriate thing to do in most cases is to ring or meet with them to explain your position, but this will depend on the individual involved. If you’re in that situation, you’ll be reasonably well acquainted with the person so it is really up to you to use your own judgement in the situation.

Of course it is important to be truthful when it comes to online dating, but kindness is also important. Nearly everyone has hopes of meeting someone special. Feelings can be fragile so avoid being tactless or inconsiderate.

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