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Dating Protocol – Dealing with Different Expectations

When seeking out friendships or even looking for that special friend or partner, online dating websites can be a very useful way to go about it. A lot of the time you will find that you are interacting with people with similar levels of expectation to yourself and having some fun in the process. You may go on real-life dates and discover the person you are seeing is not right for you or vice versa. There is always the possibility however, that when communicating with lots of different people, you may encounter one whose expectations are different and who becomes far more serious in the relationship than you feel comfortable with.

Here are some warning signs of this dating dilemma:

  • Very frequent phone calls or emails, more than you would normally expect to receive from someone you are only friendly with.
  • Expensive gifts which seem inappropriate and make you uneasy, e.g. tickets to expensive events or pricey items of apparel.
  • Even though you may have only been out on a few dates, the other person tries to become more familiar with your family and friends than you are comfortable with.

The best thing to do in this case is to be honest and talk frankly about what is happening. Although this might make one or both of you uncomfortable, it is better to do this now to avoid the pain and hurt that mismatched expectations can cause. Dating isn’t always easy!

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